find someone

some advice from the lovelorn on finding the right person

Find someone who makes you laugh comfortably, who doesn’t make you the butt of their jokes and expects you to laugh at them. Find someone who shares your sense of humor, someone you can have inside jokes with, someone who thrives on delighting you with a well timed comeback.

Find someone who is careful with your heart, who knows you are tender, vulnerable, gun-shy, and treats you accordingly. Find someone who treads carefully with your emotions while they get to know you, who caresses your very soul as you mesh together.

Fall in love with someone who holds your hand while crossing the street, someone who will always lead you down a safe path. Find someone who puts their arm around your waist when you feel uncomfortable at party, and who graciously leads you out the door when you want to leave.

Find someone who maybe has different taste in music and movies than you and is willing to share their discoveries with you. Find someone who will sit through the movies and tv shows you like in order to know you better. Be with someone who understands you have differences and never makes fun of you for liking things they don’t.

Embrace the love of someone who asks you about your day and really wants to know the answer, who will tell you what’s on their mind in a kind and loving way, who responds to your questions thoughtfully, who also knows when you need to not talk for a while.

Find someone who is kind to service people, who is a gracious tipper and a compassionate customer. Find someone who makes everyone feel like they are important, who doesn’t think any professions are below him, who is equally at home in a McDonald’s as they are in a four star restaurant.

Fall in love with a person who lifts you up and never tears you down. Find someone who encourages you, pushes you to be your best, yet knows exactly when you need an embrace instead of a pep talk. Find someone who lets you be who you are when you feel like you’re enough, someone who doesn’t push you into uncomfortable situations, who accepts that you know your limits and doesn’t ask you to push those limits if you don’t want to.

Find someone who accommodates your sleeping position, but also someone you would change your sleeping position for. Be with someone who reaches for you during the night just to assure themselves that you are still there, who sighs when you snuggle up close to them to tell them you love them.

Find someone you trust to always tell you the truth, someone who means it when they write “forever” on your birthday card, someone you can envision spending your life with, taking care of each other, being there for each other, and who never resents their role in all that.

Find someone who doesn’t mind that you get up at the crack of dawn, who will sometimes sleepily crawl out of bed to watch the sunrise with you, someone you will miss a sunrise for just for those extra minutes of snuggle time.

Be with someone who shares your definition of love, of fidelity, of trust, whose life goals align with yours, who will bend a little to meet you halfway. Find someone whose arms you want to be in when things are falling apart, and who is the first person you run to with good news to share.

Find someone who knows how to settle differences with grace and dignity, who will never put you down to make a point, who wants to resolve issues immediately instead of harboring them in this heart, where they will rot and fester, someone who doesn’t mind staying up talking until 3am instead of going to bed mad.

Find someone whose idea of fun is the same as yours, but who will also find with you new ways to have fun, someone who wants to discover all the good things in life with you.

Find someone who makes you laugh.