Grieving is tough. Grieving sucks, partly because no one can help you through it. You'll get through it in your own way and in your own time, and you'll know it when you're there. You'll know it when the memories no longer bring tears, but rather a resigned sigh or perhaps even a hint of a smile.
Your last paragraph asks exactly the right question. At this point, the only question you have any control or influence over is what you owe yourself. I hope that you'll find some peace and closure and that time will help you discover what you owe yourself. In the meantime, be good to yourself. You deserve it.
You do not owe a damn thing. The resentment you feel is looking after him for so many years, and not receiving anything in return. Alcoholics are like this. It’s a disease of the heart where a person only feels intrinsic value. It’s not only a physical disease but an emotional disease.
Do not wait for an apology that will never come. I looked after an alcoholic for years. I had to fire him twice, and answer calls when he was in jail. Never did I receive a thank you.
It’s time to move on, because you DESERVE it. Make it right by starting a new relationship. Nothing soothes the soul more than another man.
Grieving is tough. Grieving sucks, partly because no one can help you through it. You'll get through it in your own way and in your own time, and you'll know it when you're there. You'll know it when the memories no longer bring tears, but rather a resigned sigh or perhaps even a hint of a smile.
Your last paragraph asks exactly the right question. At this point, the only question you have any control or influence over is what you owe yourself. I hope that you'll find some peace and closure and that time will help you discover what you owe yourself. In the meantime, be good to yourself. You deserve it.
You do not owe a damn thing. The resentment you feel is looking after him for so many years, and not receiving anything in return. Alcoholics are like this. It’s a disease of the heart where a person only feels intrinsic value. It’s not only a physical disease but an emotional disease.
Do not wait for an apology that will never come. I looked after an alcoholic for years. I had to fire him twice, and answer calls when he was in jail. Never did I receive a thank you.
It’s time to move on, because you DESERVE it. Make it right by starting a new relationship. Nothing soothes the soul more than another man.